Due to the lack of respect many men have for women via this culture more and more men are feeling increasingly confident in asking women to perform anal sex and do other things with their anus. The innocent, delicate purity shield around the aura of women has cracked and dissipated years ago.
Once a culture is created and women can be humiliated and used in many ways with acceptance, many men begin to feel more confident in taking out their perversions on the women they bed.
Take a look at the following letter that was sent to my via my Black Celebrity Energy website:
What an amazing article! Thank you for sharing. Your points really resonated with me because of a relationship I engaged in that did not feel right. The man (Black) focused on my azz in a way that did not sit well with me. (Pardon the pun). This man is a minor celebrity - he has an Internet Radio show and I was a regular listener. At first he stated he wanted to marry me before moving on to what he would like to do to me in the bedroom. This included giving me a pedicure and "going down town" (as if these two things would clinch the deal...), however he soon moved onto the "stick a fork in that azz" talk. He called my vagina a "tunnel" ... Being a non-American I was polite but I did laugh at him... he asked why I was laughing. I said I thought he was a comedian... you can see by this exchange that cross cultural discourse can be fraught. I told him that no women wants her beautiful flower to be called a tunnel. We did, however, persevere with our dating. No actual sex yet, I have to add.
Very soon this lolly pop jock invited me to read a book he was writing and proudly sent me an except of the "love scene" he had written. I was appalled - the violence of the sex - in the "back door" across the arm of a chair, no foreplay, and lasting some four hours ("in the back door") before both parties collapsed in mutual ... aah... pleasure. Like I said the guy is a comedian. I told him I didn't think the sex scene was very sexy and that it read more like rape scene than a love scene. That's how Black people have sex, he told me... I doubted that at the time but since reading your article perhaps he was right.
There were other occasions when I, a lover of sensuality, and he, a back door azz pounder, tried to connect but it was never meant to be. It just did not feel right.
Oh, one other thing - he told me that other women (Black) who had read the "love scene" thought the characters were a "cute couple" and that they loved the "love scene." I guess when women stop enabling attitudes such as this man's then there will not be a lot of change. Once again - thanks for sharing. I'm sorry I missed the live broadcast!
